Love is a two way process. When it is one way, it’s called Attraction
How can you love somebody provided she does not love you?
It is said that ‘True love does not expect anything in return’. Here replace ‘True love’ with ‘Attraction’.
You are attracted towards looks or voice or personality or any art skills of a person and start liking her.
When this liking intensifies you call it love when actually it’s an attraction.
Boys don’t fall in love with Kareena or Deepika. They are attracted towards them.
Many people argue with this reasoning by saying ‘We fell in love with each other in our very first meet. It was love at first sight’.
Actually it was attraction that instigated them to come closer. And then when they understood each other, they fell in love.
Here we can say that attraction can be first step towards the birth of love, but certainly both are different concepts.
The process happens like this:
Situation one:
A is attracted towards B. A starts giving signals of him being attracted towards her. If A gets response from B, that means B is also attracted towards A. Now both of them come closure. They start caring each other. They understand and respect each other. Then one day they fall in love. That moment both have feelings for each other.
Situation two:
A is attracted towards B. A starts giving signals of him being attracted towards her. But B is not interested. A becomes desperate for B, as he thinks its love. Depending on the patience A has, he sustains his so called love for some time. Then as he does not elicit any response or love or care in return, the feeling in him start eroding. After some time A totally forgets B, when he is attracted towards C.
So the phrase ‘Love at first sight’ is a false phrase. Love never happens at first sight. It takes time to create and also to get destroyed.
1 comment:
Sagar, I personally believe that love itself is a superset or a deeper manifestation of attraction. I wonder why you want to treat them seperately. What's love without attraction buddy?
I agree with you to some extent though...Interesting thought actually -
"Love at first sight" may actually be a misnomer. It may not mean that there was love present in the first meeting; it may just refer to the attraction which occured between individuals when they met each other for the first time. But this attraction is precisely the reason, which led to love later. Let's rephrase it as "Attraction at first sight". What say??? :)
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